We understand people are naturally curious, and that
this question is likely one we will encounter often. Most families that are readily identifiable as
atypical--whether they're gay, multiracial, or adoptive--should expect more questions than the
typical Brady Bunch. [Although the Bradys would probably generate a raft of
questions these days, too, come to think of it.]
From the outset, John and I have agreed that who supplied the genetic material for our children is of less importance than the fact we are both 100% committed to our children. They are, and will always be greatly loved by their devoted 2 fathers.
From the outset, John and I have agreed that who supplied the genetic material for our children is of less importance than the fact we are both 100% committed to our children. They are, and will always be greatly loved by their devoted 2 fathers.
As far as their ethnicity is concerned, we have insured that
our children have genetically one parent who is of Asian descent (with similar
features to John), and one parent of Caucasian descent (with similar features
to me). Our children are biracial, and they will blend seamlessly into our biracial
family.
Though we understand it’s only natural to be curious about
who supplied the genetic material (sperm & eggs), we are under no obligation
to satisfy people’s curiosity in this respect (remember the old proverb “curiosity
killed the cat”). We don't think as gay parents, we should have to seek "acceptance"
or "get fans," any more than a straight married couple
"needs" such external validation. And why should anybody have the
implied obligation to satisfy someone's curiosity. That having been
said we feel that this question is too personal to answer.
We respectfully say
to anyone inquiring (outside of our immediate family of 4) that the answer to
this question is none of their business.
Cheers!
